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This is a collection of the comments posted to the online Guest Book of the Vancouver Sun August 29, 2005 We, Christine and Matt Lawton would like to express our sincere thanks to all who have and still are, contributing to this Guest Book following the death of our beloved son Paul. The number of messages of condolence which have been received through these pages has been staggering. We always knew throughout his short life that Paul was a very special son who was very much his own person doing things in his own unique way. We have found out throughout these sad days following his death, just how special and how unique he was; not only to us his parents but also to many, many, people throughout Canada, the United States and England. These messages plus literally hundreds and hundreds of cards and letters which we have received are a tremendous consolation to us. We would also like to express our gratitude to all those who placed messages on the forum of The Paperboys website and to Tom Landa for making this available. Our sincere thanks and appreciation is extended to the wide circle of lovely people who were Paul's friends in Vancouver and provided us with such tremendously needed support and also to the many friends who flew in from various parts of the U.S. and Canada to be present at his funeral and again give us the support we so desperately required. Our undying gratitude is expressed to Pat Ruel, Tony Barnes and Paul Graham and their respective wives for their steadfast support from the moment we arrived in Vancouver and throughout the period we were there. To Sapna Dayal and Denise Cousineau (Couz) for their amazing strength, courage, love and meticulous attention, we thank you from the bottom of our hearts. We are also indebted to Shakeh and Mesh Dayal and Chantey and John Aldridge for their love, their comfort and their generosity. To Tom Landa and the Paperboys Musicians, Shannon, Shona, Hans, Geoff and Cam and other musicians Piper - Graham MacLellan, Pianist, John McLaughlin and soloists Patricia McLaughlin and Dr. Mike Byrne, all of whom played and sang so beautifully during the vigil and the Requiem. To our loving friends Tara Haugen and Eleanor Wood for their continued love and support and our precious lifelong friends Pat and John McLaughlin whose friendship and love has been longstanding throughout our lives and especially at this tragic time as they overcame so many obstacles in order to be with us to offer the comfort and support that were so essential. Finally, to Fr. Bernie McCosham O.M.I. and Fr. John Brioux O.M.I. for their compassion and their support and the Kierney Funeral home for their sensitivity and guidance. May God Bless and Reward each and every one of you. October 9, 2005 My most heartfelt sympathies to Lolly's family and incredible number of friends. I met Lolly through Guy about 9 years ago. I have been pondering what to write for nearly a week now and still struggle with what to say...what words can describe this loss of Lolly to his family and friends and even the loss to Lolly himself, his future and what it held. It is still so hard to believe that this tragedy happened. Lolly was so kindhearted, talented and one of the most hilarious people I know. I listened many times to Lolly and Guy's skits with varied guest stars (whoever was with them at that time) and I never laughed so hard! Lolly told me that on occassion he would sit on my patio during downtime while driving for Handi Dart (many peoples patios I hear) and so I have a picture of him on that patio so his smile can greet me each day upon arriving home. Lawton's, you raised an extraordinary son and brother, I hope you realize his 40 years on this earth affected so many people, probably thousands, in such a positive and special way. My condolences to Lolly's family, girlfriend and so many friends, especially those so close to him for so many years who grieve this loss so, so deeply. Thank you for all the good times Lolly and I am so lucky to have met you. September 30, 2005 Chris and Matt, Until we meet again. August 23, 2005 Paul was a very dear friend, who I have unfortunately lost touch with over the years. Though we hadn't talked lately, you were never far from my thoughts. We have had many great times together, high school, working at Wuv's, travelling to Florida together and numerous others. Thank you for always being yourself and brightening everyone's lives that you met, especially mine. My deepest sympathies as well to Mr. and Mrs. Lawton and Bev and family. Chuck Simpson (LaSalle, ON) August 22, 2005 I met Lolly though the Paperboys and had the privilege of playing music with him a few times. We were a new band (and not very good) and we'd show up to gigs without a drummer and Lolly would always agree to sit in on drums and help us out. He was an incredible human being, filled with music, stories, smiles and laughs every time we saw each other. It was an honour to know such a great guy. Glen Ritchie (Vancouver, BC) August 17, 2005 I knew Lolly from Windsor and happened to move to Vancouver around the same time he did where I'd run into him occasionally and saw the Paperboys play several times. I'll always remember him as a very sweet, fun, funny person. My sincere sympathy to all of his family and friends. Rose (Rosie) Pavicic (Toronto, ON) August 17, 2005 The first time I communicated with Paul, I had not even met him in person. I was sitting at my desk in high school, Vincent Massey in Windsor, ON and I noticed someone had written the first verse of a song from Genesis, Trick of the Trail. I chuckled and wrote down the second verse as it was one of my favourite albums. The next day, there was the third verse. Immediately I felt connected to the person at the end of this pen. In conversation with my brother, Chuck Simpson, I ended up finding out that one of his newest friends, a person who had just arrived from England (with his absolutely beautiful sister) was laughing to him about a person writing down verses of a Genesis song. From that day on, I admired Paul and respected his love of music. You touched so many people with such simple gestures and I am grateful to have known you. Wanda Martinello (Simpson) (Windsor, ON) August 17, 2005 My thoughts are with Lolly's family and friends. Lolly had the incredible gift of being impeccable, always speaking with integrity, sincerity, and goodwill. He could leave you feeling good about yourself and about life with a short conversation. His dedication to his faith and his art has made the world a nicer place to be. Shanni Welsh (Bellingham, WA) August 15, 2005 Matt, Christine and Beverly: I can hardly write of the sorrow I feel for you. You have lost a son and a brother, but the rest of us have also lost a precious gift. True to our late Holy Father's biblical exhortation to young people, Paul really was "the salt of the earth;" he was "the light of the world." Derek, Avril, Eleri and Veronica join me in thanking you for sharing Paul with us, and asking God's blessings on you. Requiescat in pace. August 5, 2005 My deepest condolonces to the Lawton family. I unfortunately sat by my brother's casket only three months ago and read the many letters he received to him and know how much they meant. I have been told that I can ramble ALMOST as much as Lolly so I will try to keep it short. I had the honour of meeting Lolly in 92 lived with him and Paul Graham for a few months while trying to make a life altering decision(to marry and move to the U.S.). Lolly was always a great talker but just as good a listener and helped me through my tough decisions. I asked Lolly to be my best man when I married however he was late and Milan was a fine replacement. I shared a breakfast with Lolly here in Bellingham on Sat. July 10th. Lolly was as positive and spiritual as ever and we had a great conversation and reflection. Thanks for the visit Lolly I am sure we will have more and I will have a toast to you on the steps of wreck beach under the biggest brightest full moon. luv ya and miss ya August 5, 2005 we were the last to hear of this terrible accident. Christine & Matt you are both in our thoughts and prayers for you and your family in this your hour of grief. No words can express our sadness. pat & barb nicell (windsor, ON) August 4, 2005 My condolences to all of Lolly's family and friends (and there are a lot of them). I first met Lolly through Guy Devin at least 10 years ago and will never forget sitting up late at Guy's, in London Ontario, playing Tequila pigs (yes, a drinking game). For years to come I had the privelege of hearing the Paperboys several times and the song, In Love for Now will always be my favourite. When you look up at the star filled sky at night, don't think of them as stars but rather porch lights guiding you home. August 3, 2005 Joe and I had the pleasure of meeting the Lawtons when they moved into the house next door to us. They had two beautiful children and a lovely golden lab dog. We adopted them all immediately. Paul's love of music and talent were already evident at that time - and of course, his love of his British team - Everton. Peace be with you all. August 2, 2005 I was in my final year at U. of Windsor when Lolly's band The Picture Saints and our band Fools For Jade played together. Lolly and his band mates Rob and Joao became fast friends of ours and we eventually moved our bands to Toronto together and shared a house. I remember Lolly being a great drummer with a mischievous grin and a huge heart. You could not help loving the guy. I lost touch with Lolly when he moved to Vancouver so it has been many years since I have spoken with him. I was surprised how much his loss hurt after all these years, I can't imagine the pain his family must feel. My heart goes out to Mr. and Mrs. Lawton and Bev. Cheers Lolly, you will be missed. August 2, 2005 My deepest condolences to the Lawton family. Paul was a man with the heart of a child. Always upbeat, the glass was never half empty. He will be sadly missed. Doug Moore (Toronto, ON) August 1, 2005 Ruth & I have just returned from Vacation and Eric let me know of Paul's tragic passing. Dear Christine Matt Beverley & Gerard and Family, words cannot express Our Deepest Sympathy and Condolences to you all. I met Paul & Beverley when they first came to Canada as Teenagers and having worked with Matt in England we renewed acqaintances in Windsor. Bev Baby-sat for us and Paul showed our Son Gavin how to play Drums. I had the Honour of calling Paul a Friend, watching Him play Football and Refereeing Him was Simply a Joy and the fact that He was an Evertonian too was a Bonus. We will never Forget Your Wonderful Son Matt and Christine. MAY HE REST IN PEACE. August 1, 2005 Matt and family, please accept my deepest sympathy on your sad loss. To lose a loved one is always difficult but to lose one who is young and vibrant makes it even harder to understand. No words can express my feelings, or comfort you, but know that you are in my thoughts. Another True Blue, July 31, 2005 Matt,Christine and Beverly, Cas and Collette July 28, 2005 Dear Matt and Chris, we are so sorry for your loss. It is hard to know what to say. Take care of each other. July 28, 2005 On behalf of everyone at St. Clair College we extend our deepest sympathy to the entire Lawton family. Drew Dilkens (Windsor, ON) July 27, 2005 My heartfelt sorrow to you and to all those that loved Paul. His warm, spirited, passionate and profound love of a life well lived prevails. He could take your breath away with all that he was. I believe that while we grieve the loss of Paul from this life...there are many others on the other side cheering his coming. May you always remember the love for and of Paul from those of us who were lucky to have met him. He was, and forever will be, an amazing man. Barbara Zerr (North Vancouver, BC) July 27, 2005 Dear Chris and Matt, I'm just back from being away and learned of Paul's death via an email from Pat. My heart goes out to both of you. I cannot imagine what you must be feeling but I ask that you accept my sympathy and my prayers. Carol Ouellette July 26, 2005 To the Lawton family, Jon Hubert (Surrey, BC) July 26, 2005 To Paul's Family, I hope I can raise my son to have all these wonderful qualities that made Paul so loveable. We will never forget him. We wish you all our love. July 25, 2005 Paul has been drumming with the Irish Rovers for the past three years now. He was a charming gentle soul and always professional. If you're wondering how one little Englishman got along with six Irishmen, I'm telling you now that we were able to hold our own, regardless of what anyone says! We'll miss you. George Millar and July 25, 2005 Dear Matt, Chris, Bev, Gerard and family, Louise and David Cocchetto (McLaughlin) (Windsor, ON) July 23, 2005 Dear Matt, Christine, Beverly & family: God bless you, & keep you strong. July 22, 2005 My deepest condolences to the Lawton family. I met Paul a few years ago through his work with The Irish Rovers. He became a fast friend who was always introducing me to great new music that he had discovered. I'll never forget him suddenly breaking into songs over pints on days off. He was a wonderful person who I will sorely miss. July 22, 2005 Dear Matt,Christine and family, We(Noreen, Joann and the Mikes) are so sorry to hear of the sudden and tragic loss of your son Paul. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. July 21, 2005 To say that we are deeply saddened by this is a gross understatement of how we feel. The truth is that words fail me now to express just what we are feeling and going through in the last few days. We all loved and cherished Lolly and will miss him dearly. He brought so much joy and happiness to us and to everyone around him. Paul first joined the band back in 1994 and played with us until 2000. He performed on drums, percussion, and vocals on three records (Late As Usual, Molinos, and Postcards) as well as literally hundreds of shows all over North America. We started a journey together that took us through many highs and lows, thousand of miles, and so many memories that we will never forget. We feel privileged to have known him and spent so much time with him. He was a phenomenal musician and songwriter who had a passion for music that I have never seen in anyone else. His skills and talent helped shape the sound of the Paperboys and brought so much heart and soul to our music. In addition to being a drummer, percussionist, and guitarist, Lolly was a football fanatic who loved Everton Football Club almost more than any person really should love a sports team. Above all, Lolly’s greatest passion was his faith. Paul was the most spiritual person any of us have ever known and his relationship to God and his church was humbling and inspiring. No matter how much we drank and how late we went to bed Lolly always rose early on Sunday to make it to Mass no matter where we found ourselves. He put his faith into practice, volunteering his time to many charities and, since he was only 12 years old himself, has sponsored a foster child whom he stayed in touch with all these years. For those of you who knew him you will know that he was always up for a laugh even if it meant he made himself look like a fool to bring a smile to others. We loved his stories and were amazed at how good of a storyteller he was. His tales often rambled on but you certainly didn’t mind as you felt you right there in the middle of the tale and always laughing by the end. Paul is survived by his mother and father Matt and Christine Lawton, as well as sister Beverly and her husband Gerard and nephews and nieces Caitlin, Colette, Anna, Peter and Finnian Doyle. We’ve spent the last few days with Matt, Christine, and Beverly and once again wanted to thank them and tell them once more how sorry we are for their loss. We had the great honour and pleasure to play music at his funeral mass, vigil and wake. The funeral service was absolutely beautiful and the wake showed us all just how loved Paul was and what an impact he had on our lives. As we chanted at the top of our lungs: ‘There is only one Lolly Lawton’ I realized his spirit was in the room that night and will always be with us. All his friends, family, and we the band will be honouring him again with several events fundraisers and concerts. There will be a website dedicated to him and we will keep you posted on its launch. We invite all of you who knew him or met him to post your thoughts on our forum. We ask that details of his passing not be brought into this forum out of respect, but please do feel free to share your thoughts, memories, and prayers with us. Lolly, thank you for every note, every laugh, every conversation, every drink, every hug, and every minute we had the privilege of knowing you. I know you will look after us in between the soccer highlights, hitting the tubs, coming up with another crazy drink recipe, and making a new playlist on your I-pod up there in heaven where you most certainly are and deserve to be. We miss you. July 21, 2005 I am at an utter loss to express how deeply sorry I am to the Lawton family, and to those who knew and loved Lolly. Of course, to know him was to love him. I feel so very privileged to have known him, and so very grateful such a kind and gracious man was among us for too short a time. Lolly, "I thank my God upon every remembrance of you. Always in every prayer of mine for you, all making request for joy." With love, Jenise. July 21, 2005 To the Lawton Family and friends, Andrea Smith (Richmond, BC) July 21, 2005 Mr. and Mrs. Lawton and Bev. I can't even begin to find the words to express both my condolences for your loss and my sincere hope that the love that Paul spread so generously throughout his life will come back to you now at your time of need. It was the Love and care of your son and brother that brought me through some of the roughest times in my life and I have always been and will forever be grateful. I have been blessed to know many wonderful people in my life but almost all of my favourite stories begin with "One time Lolly and I...". Cheers Mate! and may we all live and love even half as well as you. July 21, 2005 To the Lawtons, my profound sympathy, and to those who knew and loved Paul. Our world was a better place with Paul here. I loved him as a brother and he was a friend that I can never replace. Cheers Lolly! I'll miss you my friend. July 20, 2005 My sincere sympathy to you, Christine,Matt & Beverly, I cannot find the words to express the sadness I feel. My deepest thoughts and prayers are with you at this time as are many thoughts and prayers from choir members. God Bless all of You! July 20, 2005 Dear Matt, Christine, Beverly and Family, God Bless July 20, 2005 We often talked about and remembered the times we spent with “Lolly” whether it was a drive to the wharf for fish & chips or over the Lions Gate Bridge to Cypress to see the sunset. Lolly was a fun loving person to be with. One of his greatest joys was to do things that brought happiness to others. The memories of Lolly and the times we spent together will live forever in our hearts and minds. We are blessed to have known him as a special friend in our lives. May treasured memories, bring you peace. July 20, 2005 We feel privileged to have had Lolly stay with us at our cottage on L. Superior and to have shared Mass with him at a small country Church. July 20, 2005 My heartfelt condolences to the Lawton family. Paul used to bring me home from work in the HandyDart. He always had his iPod with him, and I would try to stump him by asking him if he'd ever heard of some obscure band or musician. Not only had he always heard of them, he'd usually be able to play me a tune from them. What a lovely person and a pure heart. What a terrible loss. Vaughan Marshall (Vancouver, BC) July 20, 2005 We consider ourselves fortunate to have known Lolly and witness his innate ability to liven up a room, bring a smile to your face and, simply put, "make ya feel better". Our sincere condolences to his family and friends—a loss that can never be replaced; a spirit that will never disappear. Ken & Maureen Sioui (Ottawa, ON) July 20, 2005 Matt,Christine & Bev: I consider it an honour having known Paul, and he was my "Best Man" in all ways. The memories of our friendship will never fade from my heart. As for our friendship I would like to quote Thomas Merton the American Trappist monk we enjoyed discussing so much... "I have needed the experience of this journey." Carl July 20, 2005 Matt, my family's prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family. I feel lucky to have met you, worked with you, and to be introduced to Paul and see the passion he had with his music. I'll always remember how proud you were of Paul. John Matic (Windsor, ON) July 19, 2005 To the Lawton Family, With love, July 19, 2005 Needless to say that I was shocked to hear that Paul had left us with this tragic accident. In the short time that I have known him, I've found him to have a great spirit about life and having fun with his fellow band mates in Windsor back in the 80's. He will surely be missed. Cheers Paul! May we lift our glass in memories of you. Steve Daubreville (Windsor, ON) July 19, 2005 We saw The Paperboys once in person and once on TV. It is with great sorrow that we heard of this terrible loss...we know how much this man meant to all his friends, his family, his bandmates and the world of music and fun. We know some of the people who love him and miss him and our hearts go out to all. Pearson family July 19, 2005 I remember Lolly always being a fun-loving, happy-go-luck kind of guy. Never had anything bad to say about anybody and LOVED music. It was his personality and his appreciation of good music that attracted me to the Englishman who wore the bright blue scarf of Everton. Cheers Mate! July 19, 2005 We send our sincere condolences to the Lawton Family. Lolly stayed with us when The Paperboys played in our city. We enjoyed another visit with him this spring when he performed here with The Rovers. We will remember Lolly's warmth, sincerety and love of life. The world is a better place because he and his music were part of it. Louise and Rod MacLennan (Thunder Bay, ON) July 19, 2005 I was very sorry to hear that the world has lost such a wonderful person as Lolly. I spent a few years workingwith him at STP and had the pleasure of seeing him perform in Ottawa on a trip. He was a truly amazing man and I'm honoured that I had the opportunity to know him. Mary-Jo McKenzie-Dalton (Summerside, PEI) July 19, 2005 Lolly was a great guy. Everytime I would run into him and "the boys" he would always had a smile and a kind word. It was was a honour to know you Lolly. You will be missed July 19, 2005 Our thoughts are with Beverley and Matt and Christine at this sad time.We only met Paul a few short times but he was a kind and gentle man and will be greatly missed. Nick and Jane Timlin (Hartlepool) July 19, 2005 Lolly brought much fun and happiness to those that knew him, and I was glad to have been his friend. We had so much fun in college, I remember spending lunch hours watching Letterman reruns and having a pint, or endless discussions of who our favorite drummers were. Cheers mate. July 19, 2005 Lolly Rest in peace, Lolly. July 19, 2005 I am a close friend of Lisa Hayden's and had the priviledge of meeting "Lolly" several times. Immediately upon meeting him I knew he was a beautiful and loving person. I want to extend my deepest sympathy to his family and all of those who loved him so much. God bless all of you; you are in my prayers. Sincerely, Carol Armour July 19, 2005 Paul will always be with us in our hearts....he will be sadly missed by everyone. He was a special person who only comes along once in our lives. Jeff Knappett (Windsor, ON) July 19, 2005 I wish to express my condolences to Mr. and Mrs. Lawton, Bev and family. Paul was a great friend and bandmate. He always knew what to say,when to say it and how to have a great time.I will miss him but I will raise a pint to Paul on Wed. at 6:00. Robert Palombo (Windsor, ON) July 19, 2005 Dear Family, Love Jules July 19, 2005 To the Lawton Family, Sincerely, Karen Palombo July 19, 2005 Lolly - I feel truly honoured in having known you and considered your friend. You have made a tremendously significant impact on my life and I will cherish every memory forever. I miss you and I love you. Lisa Kitsos (Windsor, ON) |
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